To me you seem to be in the same situation that my wife and I were in only it was the early 70's for us. We loved the bay, but the BVI was our new adventure. It is not possible to see everything on the first trip to the BVI. Don't try, relax. It will be the best sailing you have had. The water can be 40 feet deep and you can see the bottom. Can't do that on the bay. Get a Guide Book for the BVI and check it for info. You will be fine as long as you are on Island Time.