Maybe look for a smaller day sail boat. One of the six packs would be best. If you don't mind paying for it you could have the boat to yourself with just you and the Captain. You might stand a chance of taking the helm with the right Captain. Not the same as bare boating but would allow you some time at the helm. As said above doubt you'd find anything like what you have asked. This might be a nice compromise.
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